Grief and missing you  / Trying To Understand
It seems that many friends and families have lost their loved ones over the past year.  To our family it is so incomprehensible that we are coming up on the angel anniversary of our brother's death...yet, there are still quite a few people who have yet to acknowledge that he has even passed away or paid special tribute or called or written our parents who are still struggling with losing a very special son.  To those who have acknowledged birthdays, special days or sent prayers and paid tribute please know we are forever grateful.  To those who have also lost loved ones you are in our prayers and we try to use our grief to help others.  We know how very important a card, flower or phone call can be.  It just may be the reason you can get out of bed on that day.... Our brother, son, cousin, uncle and friend was/is so very important to us... Please take a minute and share a story with us or light a candle for him.  It truly does make a difference in the life of our family.  Over the last year we have had some very bad set backs and also a few triumphs...Just know Jordan Robert Ordal lives on in each of us.

Please don't ask us if were over it yet
We will never be over it, apart of us died with him!

Please don't tell us he's in a better place
He's not here with us, in our home!

Please don't ask if we feel better
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up!

Please don't tell us you know how we feel,
Unless you've lost your child, you don't have a clue!

Please don't tell us at least we had him for 14 years, we were grateful we did,
At what age would you choose to lose your child?!

Please don't tell us, at least we have more children.!
Which one of your children would you not miss and grieve for?!

Please do say:
Your sorry
Say you remember him, share your memories with us
Let us talk about our sweet Jordan, mention his name often.
Remember his birthday, Holidays and Angel date.
Please light a candle, pay tribute, visit his grave, say prayers
And~~~~
Please let us cry and listen to us!

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Mother's Day  / Chelle
Jord,

Bring mom your special laughter on Mother's Day!  You can only imagine how much she misses you.

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Jordan... / Hayley Richards

Hey Jordan...another day and you are gone all i do is cry over you and Allen you are soo missed and I talk to Kayla and Jordan. she says the best things ever it makes me cry and my throat swell up...but you know i makes me realize all the things in life and that you are still here to protect us....and i also told her the way she talks to me makes it feel like Ms. Dr. Phil and she said she was happy to hear me say that...but Jordy we miss you its not fair you had to go but if you we wouldnt be the people we are today well i better head out ttyl Jordy Love you! -*Hayley*

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Mother's Day  / Chelle
I have been searching and searching for your message for mom.... Please speak louder! Close

Bazooka Gum  / Allie

Today at  Awana I got a  piece of Bazooka gum.  It made me think of you because when you and I used to eat it in Mima's car and you stuck five pieces in your mouth and blew a huge bubble.   It made me think of the fun times I had with you.    I love you !    a.t.                                                                          

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Missin U!!!!!!!!!  / Mike (Brother)
Hey brother, 
I know its been awhile since I wrote to you but its been hard.  Talking to you this way just dosent seem fair.  I get so sad doing this, I cant understand why this happened.  Its on my mind all the time I think about you so much!!!!!!  What hurts the most is not having a reason.  I know there wont be one and god dosent owe any explanation but I sit an wonder why he wanted you so bad.  God has you and hopefully I can except that someday but right now I cant.  I think of you daily and wish you were around for many things that are happening today love you and miss you tons.  Pray for me as I do for you help me in my life.  Well until we meet again brother love you I'll talk to you soon!!!!

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With Love & Care xo  / Jane Einarson Matthew's Mom (I care )
To dear Jordan's special sister~thank you so very much for your lovely tribute to my son, Matthew. It was so very touching & kind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am so very very sorry for your families pain & heartache of losing precious Jordan. He is a sweet looking little boy. I hope it will be alright if I continue to visit Jordan. God bless. You are in my thoughts & prayers now & always xoxo 


Jordan


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Grief / Chelle

Coming up on 9months has not made our days any easier...the love a parent feels for their child just can never make sense when they are ripped from their arms...the following touched me so deeplyfrom a mother searching for her son.  While we feel your presence briefly we know you are with your Heavenly Father.   We miss you so very much my brother.  Let us know it is okay to smile and to laugh and to love.  Thank you for protecting us with the help of your FATHER!


 I thought when I lost my son,I wanted to die,my life,I thought,was done. No one can understand what a parent feels when they lose one of their own, You think its all a dream,wake me up,here I don't belong. You feel guilty if you eat,smile,laugh or even sleep, You wonder how could I do that,all you want to do is weep. You feel guilty because your life is going on without them in it and you can't begin to comprehend? That your life must go on but their's is finished,the end. But they are waiting for us to join them in that home across the sea, Working on our mansion,where we'll spend eternity. Now a parent shouldn't have to lose their child,the grief consumes our heart and soul, But Jesus will help you thru this,I've been there and I know. 

I think this other reason this is so touching to me is while I laid the first night (July 4th) outside on the ground wretching in pain and anguish, it started to sprinkle.  When I asked, God why he would take my brother from us all..It sprinkled as if they were tears shed from Heaven and He indeed answered, " Now you know how I felt losing my son."  This made me sadder but even more  aware of God's continued presence.  May he continue to heal my beautiful mother's heart and all those lifes which have been deeply touched.
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Jordan..*^i^ / Hayley Richards (friend)
hey Jordan, hows it going? good here...be with Kayla and her family,be with your family and please be with mine as well...i was looking through my families pictures and saw a school picture i was just staring at it and started crying and said is that Jordan?!?! and i looked at the back and it was!! i stopped crying and said he is still here.." and you are!! i miss you so much...well i better get goin.. take care of us and yourself

                      R.I.P *Jordan*

                        p.s-God is love, and anyone who lives in love is living with God and God is living in him.' Close

Thanks! / Kayla Greer (**Good Friend** )

Jordan!~
 I cant even begin to describe how much I miss you....seeing your face, your smile...hearing your voice, your laugh....   You meant so much to each and every one of us, we will never let go!  People keep telling me that if I dont want to hurt so much from you being gone that I need to move on and forget what happend.....but Jordy, its never that easy! You were my friend, someone who I could talk to, someone that could make me laugh, someone who I could have fun with....you were my *Dr. Phil*  Trying to forget what happend and trying to forget that your gone is like saying there are no stars in the sky....I know your always in my heart...I will never forget you Jordy! The days seem longer...especially lately...my birthday is 4 days away...if I could have anything in the world...it would be to see you and allen one last time..just to see your faces and smiles or hear your voices and laughs.....but I know that wont happen until I join you in heaven....  So many thoughts still fill my head, I wish you would send me a sign...to show me your okay and so I would know that your still thinking about me...I just want to know that you havent forgotten about me!  Your family is wonderful! They mean to world to me, I think of them as my family now, they have gone through so much and wow....I am at a loss for words! They are amazing and I know this isnt easy on them either! IDK how they all get through the days...but im sure they think of all the good times they've had with you and they remember you are now in the Lord's arms..he is keeping you safe and giving you warmth and comfort! Its never easy to let go of someone you love...but the truth is Jordy, I dont think I ever let you go! And I promise...I never will!   Jordy, thanks so much for everything you've done for me and taught me! Nobody could ever replace a person like you...you are one of a kind...and truly missed by everyone you left behind...I hope you know we all miss you! Keep Hayley in your thoughts...I know she's been having a hard time...she's only little and is so mature for her age..going through something like this when your younger is real tough...but I know she will be strong, I will help her through it! I love you so much Dr. Phil! Cant wait to see you again!!! 

*-Love you always,

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Birthday Wishes for Nikki  / Chelle
Brother,
Thank you so very much for protecting Nikkole!

You're Not Gone Forever

 

God loaned you to us for a little while

And we were truly blessed.

And though it's hard to say goodbye,

We know our Lord knows best.

 

In your life you touched us all,

And in our hearts you'll live on,

As in His arms where you now rest,

We know you're not really gone.

 

Beloved one, you led the pack

You've gone ahead - the path to blaze.

While in our Father's house you wait

To help and guide our ways.

 

When our time comes to cross the door,

We know without debate,

We'll meet again and never part,

When we rejoin inside Heaven's gate.

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Jordan..* / Hayley Richards (Friend)
Hey Jordan! well hope you are doing good!! well i was talking to Kayla and she and I were talking...about you and how much you mean to us and how much we miss you...and she apoligized for getting me upset but i have been waiting to talk to her...you know what? i can ONLY talk to Kayla...my heart always cramps up when i think of you and then take a deep breath in and i miss you and Allen and i love you guys!! well im sorry i cant write as much because i didnt know you the best!! 
                     well love you Jordan        ~*R.I.P*~  
                         
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What You Do for Me  / Ben Ordal (brother)
Dear  Jr. I just  wanted to take a moment to say thank you for everything that you have done. Even though im blessed with Jada my heart still aches knowing the void she will be without one special uncle. Each day I Think of you wondering if you see us and if you could tell god if appreciate my daughter. I Just hope you can see how beautiful she is JR. Even the most minute little thing reminds me of you.  Her pretty face reminds me of your precious smile. Only a cool kid like yourself would have loaded up a mower and mowed my lawn or do just about anything with no convincing. All I gotta say is the world is without one  undoubtedly  charismatic kid. Love you bro with all my heart.
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Resurrection and Geese  / Chelle
Thank you for the sign of the geese today!   I was wondering about Nikki's question for you and shedding tears because I wish you were with us and knowing God could raise you from the dead like he did his son.  Four geese crossed my path on the way back home heartbroken...Two went one way and another two went the other.  Love and miss you so terribly much it hurts!

 I think God sent the sign of the geese to remind us to remain steadfast in our faith and that we will see your smiling faces soon.  Love and misses this first Easter without you!
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missing U JR:)  / Sis Nik (sister nikki )

Hey JR hows it going bud? I sure do miss you and wish all this was just a b ad dream and I would just wake up and you would be there next to me just like you were on the morning of the 4th. But in all reality I know it's not a dream and you really are gone for good and now with God and in a better place now. I don't agree with that decision, but it wasn't up to me that day. There are days when I just think about you sleeping with me that last night and also how you got to spend your last night on earth with me and Ben. I also asks myself why would God put you on earth for 14 wonderful years in the hands of your family and friends and then take you away leaving us to try and understand and to try and lead our lives normally. I also wonder what you do daily, but my biggest question to you is CAN YOU SEE YOUR FAMILY EVERYDAY AND KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING? Just answer that for me JR cause it will bring some peace to my life.I really miss our fun times together Jr. I miss going to Best Buy and buying you games, and to Hy-vee and buying you food and wither coke or mt.dew or coffees or you asking to drive my car. I sure hope you are happy in heaven with God and Allen, and your Grandparents. It seem like everything has gone to shit down here since you passed away. It seems like the only positive things are my life, my husband, my chloe and Olivia, family, friends, and the new babies Charlee and Jada. You should see them both Jordan they are both so beautiful you would be very proud to be their Big Uncle. I think the hardest thing for me though is everyday I know you are never coming back. I gave you too many years and spent too many years help raising you for you too all of a sudden be gone and there is not a dang thing I can do about it. But on the other hand the one thing that keeps me going is knowing that one day again I will see you again and I hope you and God meet me at the gates. Please tell God to take care of you and also to say a prayer for me cause I have been having a very hard time taking myself to church lately. Also tell God to say a prayer for all of our family and to get Charlee well and get her home. It's been a long time and I would like a sign from you Jordan. Well have a Happy Easter and remember I love you with my heart eternally now and forever. Your Sis Nik:)

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Easter / Hayley R. (friend)
Hey Jordan...it's almost Easter..hope you have a good one...Kayla and I miss you sooo much...we wish we could hear you and Allen's voice again...and i pray that you can give us all strength and courage...and help little Charlee...well i will talk to you later...love you...we all do...
P.S- tell Jenny she looked very pretty in her prom dress...* and Nick loves you like you are his brother... Close

Uncle twice in a week  / Mom (mom)
Jordan   Wow you were uncle twice within a week.  Two beautiful baby girl's.  Charlee is in intensive care but is doing well and Jada is in regular newborn nursery and will probably be coming home on Friday.

How we all miss you and think of you everyday.  Yesterday I drove by McKennan park on the way to visit Sally, Ben and Jada.  I couldn't happen but think of all the times that we had driven to Sioux FAlls, picked up breakfast at  McDonald's and went  to the park to watch the story book plays.  Then we would go to the Wellness Center and hang out there for a couple of hours.  So many good memories of all the things we use to do and all the fun we use to have.  It seems as if it was yesterday that you were still here and I could hold you in my arms and tell you how much I love you.  Oh how I miss seeing your bright smiling face and your quick wit.    No one can ever imagine how much the sting of death hurts until you loose a child.  I pray each day for guidance and strength for each member of our family,.  Some days I can't help but wonder if God hears our calling.  But then something will happen to re-affirm that He is there and He does hear us.  I don't think words could ever possibly explain the emptiness the gut wrenching pain that I feel and the loneliness that we are all experiencing.  I have to believe that God knows what we need and will take care of each and everyone of us.  I pray that God will heal each and everyone of our heart's and give us peace and comfort in the days ahead.  Love you always Close

Wow / Chelle
My baby...nine months and still no answers is wearing on us all.  It seems like yesterday you were lying in your bed and twisting  your hair.  I love and miss you so much! Close